Women are absolutely amazing, but also the worst when it comes to expectations. In our relationships (especially romantic ones but not just those) we expect other people to know how we want to be treated, what we want, and how to bring out the best in us. But people don’t work that way. We are all different and come from different experiences. We really want others to be mind readers and anticipate our needs. No one can live up to that.
We need to be teachers and students.
When someone doesn’t meet our expectations, take a look at how you could have communicated what you needed better. How can you teach them what you need?
When it comes to others, you have to be a student of them. Ask them what they need. Learn their nuances and what makes them unique.
This is a process but it’s worth it. How many relationships have ended because someone doesn’t feel loved, but the other person can make a long list of things they have done? All those things were good but they weren’t what that person needed. Your shooting for the target but totally missing the bullseye.
In relationships it’s like your shooting blindfolded, so you have to listen to the other person’s direction in order to hit that perfect spot. Your going to miss a ton so it’s helpful to at least acknowledge when the other person attempts. Be open to correction on your aim, don’t be discouraged, and don’t give up.
It’s not called target practice for no reason.
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